“You Have an Attitude Issue.”

Have you noticed that when a man will say something firmly, they’re said nothing. But when a female doesn’t step back from speaking their mind and doesn’t allow others to speak over them while they’re speaking, it’s considered rude.

Having faced these experiences, well too many times to even count on two hands, I know people that have called my confidence on what I’m talking about, “rude” or having “an attitude.” Like sorry, I have had years of experience and knowledge on this topic and you have not so I am sharing some information to help you????

The fact is that NO ONE should have to go through this even once.

Why does my gender reveal the level of knowledge I have on a topic? Like where’s the correlation? 👁

Here’s another one - Getting spoken over on Zoom is super common. It’ll happen to you at least once in every meeting. That’s normal. BUT when you are delivering a statement and someone CONSTANTLY is interrupting you and does not allow you to even finish your thought, you’ve got to bring out the lines with 0 shame - “Hey Jim! Can you please let me finish my thought?” “I’m trying to speak, you had your opportunity so it’s my turn now.”

There is nothing rude about saying those lines. Those lines need to be said to tell these people that you are not here to be interrupted every 2 seconds, spoken down to. You mean serious business and will create space for yourself, no matter what gets thrown at you.

Men being straightforward and blunt - no issue. A woman expressing exactly what needs to be said in a straightforward manner - disrespect…

You’re the one disrespecting me by not allowing me to even finish my 10 word sentence, JIM.

It’s sad as to how many times I’ve had to use the lines above or similar ones. Normally they work and other times male coworkers will view the situation as getting heated. Hun, it ain’t getting heated, I’m just trying to get my valid point across. Hear me out.

The more you allow it, the more people will think it’s okay to speak over you. The more you stop it, the less likely they’ll interrupt you or any other person on purpose next time.

Take care <33