Want to be in a Relationship? Well this is why it may not be a good idea to Rush into one.

Everyone wants a significant other-it’s human nature! You’re not wrong or desperate for wanting one.

But listen: you can’t rush into one just because you want one. An initial attraction may just be initial until you start finding out their true colors and actual qualities. Maybe at first it may seem like they’re kind and respectful, but a few months into speaking and y’all are already in a relationship - you could find out the person is disrespectful and doesn’t match the qualities in a partner you’re looking for. They may compliment you within the first few few months of talking, but then may comment on your body when you are dating (MAJOR red flag).

Then you reflect. Maybe you realize that, wait. I’m in this relationship, I thought they were a great person but they really aren’t someone I feel genuinely happy around anymore. I feel irritated when I’m with them. I don’t appreciate their comments about MY body. I don’t like it when they make fun of me or make certain jokes or use certain words even though I’ve expressed it to them.

And then you feel that because they have a very kind heart, you don’t want to hurt their feelings. Resulting, in you feeling bad and disregarding those red flags. Even after speaking about it, telling them how you feel, regardless if you are dating or not, no one has the right to comment on your body, your skin, appearance, etc. They can’t be someone who can control you, remember that. You are in control of your own life, do not change your appearance or yourself just because someone else likes it different. It’s you, your body, your appearance, YOUR LIFE.

If you feel like you’re being restricted from hanging out with your friends while in the relationship, you feel like you’re not able to take care of your physical and mental health, it’s time for a conversation to happen between you and your partner, or it’s time to step back. A couple supports each other, doesn’t control.

And listen: Being in love is not the goal in life, it’s just part of a journey. Do not let it lead your life. Do not lower your expectations. You’d rather be happily single than crying in a relationship.

Step out of that toxic relationship. It’s not worth it. You’re hurting yourself by staying in it.

If you’re not feeling that mutual love, you’ve got to speak up. It’s one of those really hard conversations to have with your partner but there’s nothing worse than being with someone and not having the same mutual feelings they have. Explain to them that you need some time or do not feel the same as you used to. And your partner must understand that, might take them some time but they will understand. It’s better telling them now rather than 5 years down the line. It’s hard, I know, very hard, but you’ve got to just go for it. It’s a matter of your life as well.

It’s hard but it’s best for both of you. Take care ♥️