Let's chat about the changes in that one relation.

Just doing a lil reflecting today.

the number of people you go through in your life. each having such a unique relationship and spot in your life.

some you have fall outs with then you patch right back up. others you have such a fall out that there is no room for a patch up.

but there are also ones which proceed and adapt. those you used to speak with every day without fail, you now barely speak with.

At first there are questions, concerns, thoughts of : is this person using me at their disposal only when they need something? their energy has been off, why is this, what about that? is this relation worth it?

it may feel normal to not speak regularly with certain people but not with that one person whom you had such a relationship with that you wouldn’t go even 1 week without speaking to. and that’s the relationship you question. that friendship - what happened?

I was speaking to someone and had this thought pass through my mind, multiple times. which i then mentioned to another friend to get her POV on it. 

and she explained something so beautifully to me: “friendships change and that’s okay it doesn’t mean they love you more or less, u just need to learn expectations of ppl in this new stage in their life.”

quite often we want to understand others and their struggles but we also want to pay attention to how we’re feeling because that is what’s so important. but at the same time, we need to understand the other person in the relation’s life journey as well, but really actually understand it. It’s a complex matter because we also need to look out for ourselves, while understanding the other person and not making too much of a compromise that we’re not giving ourselves what we should be. 

it’s just that perfect balance that you need to hit where even though that close relation and its habits have changed so drastically, is it because of the lifestyle changes or is it that this person truly is not putting in effort for just no reason.

take care, lovelies ♥️