Is Fighting over Materialistic Things Worth It?

“Things” won’t stay with you your entire life… but what will are your relationships. Not that phone or clock that you don’t like that he bought; that bedsheet that she bought that you thought didn’t match the room color; or even that lamp shade.

Is it really worth having a brutal yelling match over these materialistic things? The things which we could just discuss and come to a compromise or even just not bother paying any attention to, sometimes are the things which we will spend the most time and energy on.

Our friend, let’s say Jermey, just turned 20 today, and his parents surprised him with a 2021 Audi A8. His parents both took a day off yesterday to purchase the car while Jermey wasn’t home.

Remember our friend, Jermey? He woke up morning of and spotted the keys that his parents had left for him. Jermey ran downstairs in excitement and opened the door to see the car standing in their driveway. An immediate scream… “MOM, DAD.” His parents ran towards the door, with which Jermey replied with “um are you serious? I wanted the 2022 BMW M… I hate you guys.”

Sadness mixed with guilt ran through Jermey’s parents’ veins. They went out of their way, out of their budget more specifically, to buy their son a car… just to be yelled at?

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Do you see the situation? Jermey looked at the kind of car, the physical aspect, before anything else. It’s one thing is if he had heard that there’s a defect with the car, which he could have said later. But neither did he appreciate that his parents thought of him nor did he put into perspective of the car being such an expensive purchase. Without appreciating or thanking them of this thoughtful gift, he looked entirely at the object than the emotions and thought behind it.

The car can stop working, be exchanged for another. But that relationship that’s been built on so much trust, love, and time you want to ruin that due to materialistic things? Spot and understand the intention, the emotion that your friends/family bought you the gift. They thought about you, spent their money on you, felt that you would enjoy and love this. They didn’t HAVE to buy you anything.

But they did, out of love and care.

Reflect on this topic for a little bit, take care <3